Motherhood & Merriment: Tips to Ease Holiday Stress and Anxiety
As mothers, the holiday season often brings a unique set of challenges, balancing the desire for festive joy with the responsibilities of caregiving. The pressure to create magical moments and memories for our families can sometimes lead to stress and anxiety (then feelings of sadness or shame when we inevitably fail to meet our high standards!). In this blog, we’ll explore practical strategies specifically tailored to help moms manage holiday stress.
Mental health tips for the holidays…
Set Realistic Expectations for Yourself:
Moms, it’s crucial to acknowledge that perfection is an unattainable goal. Instead of striving for flawlessness, set realistic expectations for yourself and your family. Remember that imperfect moments can be just as special and memorable.
Craft a Realistic Schedule for You and Your Family:
The holiday hustle can be overwhelming. Plan your family’s schedule realistically, ensuring there’s time for breaks and relaxation. When you overcommit to events or activities, it may make you or your little ones feel burned out, unable to enjoy the magical moments.
Prioritize Self-Care Moments: Amidst the holiday preparations, carve out moments for self-care. Many of us do not have the luxury of sneaking away for extended time, but can you steal a few quiet minutes to enjoy a cup of tea? How about taking a brisk walk or practicing a brief mindfulness exercise? Remember that it is important for you to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being and little moments add up.
Establish Clear Boundaries: As a mom, it’s okay to set boundaries to protect you and your family’s well-being. If certain activities or gatherings become too much, allow yourself to say no. Communicate your boundaries with grace, and prioritize the peace of your household.
Ditch Social Media & Drop the Comparisons: No matter what, someone else on social media will always do it better. Don’t spend your time comparing your decorations, family Christmas photos, gift wrapping skills, gifts, [fill in the blank] to others. It will only steal away your ability to enjoy what you have. If you are prone to comparison, consider going on a “social media fast” and focus on the present moment.
Thoughtful Financial Planning: Financial stress can be a significant source of anxiety during the holidays, especially in today’s economic climate. Establish a realistic budget for gifts and festivities, keeping in mind that the sentiment behind a gift holds more value than its cost. I’ve taken my kids to Disney World before and when I ask them about some of their favorite moments, they don’t ever mention those trips. Instead, I often hear about “that one time we bought McDonalds and had a picnic in the park” or “when we made a blanket fortress in the living room.” Remember, your time and attention is also a gift.
Connect with Other Moms: Reach out to fellow moms who may be experiencing similar holiday challenges. Sharing your feelings and experiences can provide a sense of camaraderie and support. Look for local mom’s groups on social media, MeetUp.com, or in your community. You might discover helpful tips or simply find comfort in knowing you’re not alone. If you attend an event and don’t find yourself connecting with anyone there, give it a few more tries. The first time is usually the hardest and remember, just because a group isn’t for you doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. You just haven’t found the right fit yet.
Quick Mindful Breaks: When anxiety creeps in, take a few moments for mindful breathing or other relaxation techniques. These brief breaks can help you reset, allowing you to approach motherhood and the holiday season with a calmer mindset.
Gratitude Moments with Your Family: Encourage a focus on gratitude within your family. Share moments of appreciation together, fostering a positive atmosphere. Consider creating a family gratitude journal to capture the special moments and blessings, both big and small. Focusing on thankfulness have both mental and physical health benefits too!
Dear moms, remember that your well-being is just as important as creating magical moments for your family. By setting realistic expectations, prioritizing self-care, and connecting with other moms, you can navigate the holiday season with greater ease and create meaningful memories for your loved ones.